Lost at School chapters 3-4

Chapter three discusses the different plans that can be used when dealing with a child. Plan A is what is typically used by most adults in which they impose their authority. Plan B is the main focus of the chapters because it involves a collobroative problem solving approach to deal with the problems.  I think this was quite interesting because it involves both parties and allows for communication to occur between the two.  However, I wonder if kids really know what they need or are looking for from a collaboration.  I see how this can be useful when dealing with a challenging child who is a bit older but I wonder how it can be used to deal with a challenging child at a younger age.  In the story about Joey, he has multiple teachers so he is in middle school.  My question to my group is how do you think that this same plan can be modified and used for Joey if he was younger.  I understand the principals hesitation with this new idea of problem solving because although I can see and understand how it can work it is something new for her.  Chapter four discusses extensively Plan B and the different forms of Plan B which can be Proactive or Emergency. I think in order to get to a point where you can use proactive B there would have to be many plan A or C or emergency B because you wouldn't know to use it. There are three steps that the author talks about which make up plan B; the first step is empathy.  I think regardless of solution, it is important to be empathetic towards your students and that they know you care about them and their needs or feelings.  The next step is to define the problem in which the teacher says what her concerns are which I think is important to do anyway.  For example, when the students in the class I work with talk while the announcements are on, the teacher explains her concern. She tells them why it is important for her to be able to hear the anncouncments and that it is for everyone's safety.  Voicing your concerns is something that should already be done. The last step is to come up with a solution, adult and child. As I mentioned earlier I wonder how this would work at younger ages.  It is important that the child feels like he or she has a say and is active in his learning and growth.  It seems like Ms. Woods and Joey were able to come up with an agreeement so now it is a matter of sticking to it.